A long time ago I wrote a blog post about Loving Your Mommy Friend and supporting each other as moms in the decisions we make for our children. I felt the need to again encourage moms after I read the recent blog post that was circulating the internet about what do stay at home moms do all day.
My response might not be what you think and I'll be honest I have sat down to write this blog post a few times with no success on a coherent or readable post.
Something about the article kind of dug at me and despite being a SAHM for 4 years (I am starting to work FT again as of late) I just didn't get the rush of "Yeah! Right on!" sort of feeling that I thought I would get.
I will say it now. I don't feel like stay at home moms are better than working moms and vice versa. When did it become a contest? When did stay at home moms become silent martyrs and working moms suit-clad, high heel wearing squashers of supposed "real mom" set.
I wasn't aware that working moms get to opt out on motherhood because they work. That they are less involved, less connected. Is that what you are telling me?
Do stay at home moms sit around eating bons-bons and hand knitting socks? Do they all homeschool their kids? Don't they get to take naps? Probably not.
I've done both and both are difficult paths, each in their own ways. As a SAHM I never thought working moms were better than me and as a working mom I don't bemoan moms who stay at home.
WE ARE ALL MOMS.
We are ALL making tough decisions and making sacrifices and yes, some of us are even having fun!
The comparison game will leave you empty every time because we are judging ourselves and others by a measuring stick that doesn't line up with who God has said we are. We are beloved by Him and honestly that is all that matters.
Support one another. Extending to those around us the same grace and mercy that we have received in LOADS from our heavenly Father. Why not share a bit of it with someone else?
It is easy to make speculations about what someone else is doing when you aren't in the thick of it with them. Instead of being an outside judger, be an inside encourager and cheerleader of moms no matter what they do.
Because one day you might be in the opposite boat. You might need a kind word. You might need grace on a tough day.
We were never commanded to "fix" one another, but to LOVE, and in my book, that's a much better deal.